Monday, September 1, 2025 (Why do people need filters in the life?)

I am surprised to see swing outlook of many persons. They have some particular issues for various sectors of groups. They change their opinion and make a narrative as per situation. Though changing opinion is not a sin at all, they change it with intention that the things go with their own way. Sometimes, they try to judge everything in absolute term which ultimately does not align with the reality. 

I often think that I understand the philosophy of a person. However, I recognize that I am wrong about my assumption from time to time due to having filters of those persons. Almost no one is strict to his or her own philosophy. Moreover, most individuals are opportunistic which is not preferable at all. In contrast, I found a few people having only one face. The phenomenon is not impossible if we are honest in our way. Flexibility means that it is predetermination about opportunities in case of philosophies. You should accept the actual fact and should not provide example of expectional events. 

At the end, It is not necessary to match my way of thinking with others. I accept anyone's way of living and try to understand his or her way of thinking. 

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Saturday, August 09, 2025 (A new culture)

Our assumptions are not always necessarily right because we are human beings and we can misjudge a phenomenon in our way. I assumed that western people are not friendly at all. There were many reasons behind my thoughts. Firstly, I heard a lot of things about them and most of them negatively impacted my mind. Inverse attitude towards western culture was the main reason behind my assumption. Additionally, I am always highly influenced by the teachers and some of my university teachers said that they were very rude and unfriendly, especially to Asian people. They again said many unfavorable things against their culture and lifestyle which forced me to jump to the worst conclusion as well. Lastly, the mass media of Bangladesh showed various things about western culture and society in the worst way. 

These were the main reasons behind my outlook about British people in the past. Before 2017, I tried to judge everything in absolute terms and I failed again and again to recognize the actual fact before that period of time. A man could be good or bad in absolute terms from my point of view. If someone was considered as good by me, he was perfect in all perspectives. However, I realized that the philosophy was wrong. As no one is perfect in all the areas, absolute judgement about a person is very controversial. After 2017, if anyone asked me about someone's behavior or performance, I asked a counter question. The question was “in which sector do you ask for?”. Because it is impossible for me to provide an overall judgement about someone. That philosophy inspired me to re-evaluate my assumptions about life, people, culture and religion. I was a hardliner about my philosophy in the past but gradually I realized my mistakes, rethought my philosophy, explored new ideas and reshaped my philosophy. As a result, I did not have any extreme thinking about any phenomenon including western people after 2018. 

Now back to today, when I arrived in the UK, I gradually felt that they were very friendly and helpful in most cases. They at least try to help others which is missing from people of my nation. They are very tolerant in almost all sectors. That's because we are immigrants and they accept us without showing any discrimination. In my country, we face challenges with the issue of Rohingya refugees and people don't like to accept them at all & hate them due to the financial crisis in many cases. In contrast, we, the people of Bangladesh, always try to show Muslim brotherhood in our daily life. Hence, it is a contradictory scenario and people of Bangladesh including me are hypocrites. The same thing happens in the western countries as well, they never boycott us (immigrants) socially. Moreover, I remained disappointed by the fact that asking questions was considered a sin in many cases in Bangladesh. Many people may disagree with me but it is true somehow. British culture always promotes asking questions and providing feedback in all matters which are necessary to improve ourselves and to explore new areas. Another great aspect is that British people like to do outdoor activities. Almost everyday, I see children play many types of games, hang out with others, do cycling and many more activities. It is a common scenario that all the members of the family go cycling or fishing on the weekend whereas the younger generation of Bangladesh mostly focus on online and spend most of their time chatting with others. Most of the parents provide mobile phones to their children at a very early age and they don't consider the negative sides of it. Thus, the younger generation is always busy with their phones, avoiding outdoor activities, and family hangouts on the weekend is missing from our culture. The western culture always accepts other cultures and values in their society. People come to the western countries with their traditional outfits and no one has any objection to it which shows their greatness. In the same street, we can see someone wearing a short dress and someone wearing a traditional long dress. In fact, watching church, Mosque and Hindu temple in nearby places is very common in the UK. Anyone follows his or her religious rituals without any disruption which is the beauty of the western world. 

Today, I went out to accomplish some personal work and I saw some fruit trees in the garden of a British man. I took a couple of pictures of it and watched it curiously. Then a British man came out from the house and started giving me information about the fruit. The name of the fruit was quince. He also added information about another nut tree. I was just amazed to see the friendly behavior of the man. 

The moral part of the story is that it is impossible to judge a society in absolute terms and every society has more or less positive and negative things. 

Monday, August 04, 2025 (Why am I stress-free? part-5)

I am flexible to fit myself in any environment and I don't have any fear to leave any place. There were a lot of times in my life when I preferred to start everything from starting even though I achieved some certain milestones.

It is true that I do not have any fear to leave any set place. I did it many time in my life and I will do it in future. Whenever I left any place, I found something more interesting in my previous life. From my perspective, leaving does not mean that I am a looser. It always inspires me to think in-dept and to prepare myself for the upcoming challenges. I always love to start everything from the beginning as it gives me opportunities to avoid the mistakes and to plan more accurately. Brainstorming is a great exercise for me. Most of the people do not want to give pressure in their brain as it is painful for them. On other hand, it realizes me that I am alive. 

Monday, July 28, 2025 (Why am I stress-free? part-4)

I got someone who can support me in any point of life without conditions

It is one of the valid reason behind my happiness that I have someone who always supports me even though I am not fully right. I love her but I can not match the love she has for me. I don't need to think about any matter most of the time due to her involvement. When I met with her, I quickly realized her value. She is very caring person and took wise decisions. Her social communication is much more higher than that of mine. It is true that I become highly dependable on her. She is the reason behind the my confidence and I can live in any place in the world with her. There were a lot of situations where she appreciated my decisions. She knew that my decision was not wise but she accepted me as I was. without her support, I may have became a successful professional with a having depression and unsatisfied individual. Thus, It is a strong reason behind stress-free life.

 

Monday, July 21, 2025 (Why am I stress-free? part-3)

Secondly, I spent my life in a high tensed environment from 2016 to 2024 which might have increased my patience. I am always thankful to the creator as I know meaning of stressful life. Thus, I can handle the pressure of any unfavorable situation.

My life was quite relaxed until 2016. In 2016, I joined my first job which was very challenging and had high work pressure. It became more complex and mentally challenged at the same time. I worked for a long period of time without breaks. I am always thankful to the organization about the experience as it was a life changing moment for me. I changed myself and my outlook towards others. I gradually became a person who remained quiet even in the high times. In 2019, it was not tough to handle the pressure due to my previous experience in my second job. I pushed myself and tested my limits in 2021 when I started freelencing. Somedays, I worked approximately 15 hours in a day with full focus and creative mind. It was even more challenging than my first job. Life is restless for me and I enjoy the mental unease. I never feel worried about those experiences because those situations provided me with the power to think positive, enjoy any work, cooperate with a difficult person and handle the pressure. 

It is a strong reason behind my quietness that I can actually tackle unpleasure situations, at least, I can mentally handle them. 

Sunday, July 20, 2025 (Confused about my philosophy)

I always believe that respect and decent behavior can conquare the heart of an unfriendly person. I want to believe in the philosophy and some people try to break my trust. I respect everyone, even unpreferred colleagues. I am confused that some persons still insult me without any proper reasons. Maybe they live in a deep dark ocean where there is no light. whenever they face the light, they think that it is a harmful thing for them. Because they don't know the value of light or they are not familiar with the power. thus, they only understand the language of darkness. I can not change the world but I believe in my philosophy at the same time. 

Friday, July 4, 2025 (Why am I stress-free? part-2)

The event may take place after a long time. If something happens after a while, I will think about it after a certain period. It is more logical for me.  

When there is a lot of time to happen an unfavorable event, I stop thinking about it. Obviously, I have to do many things which are necessary to do before that particular event. In contrast, I am fully concentrated on my ongoing tasks. To tackle any situation, I make plans which work sometime and does not work other times. However, I need to focus on the present scenario for the achievement of upcoming objectives. If I think only about future for a stressful event, I will definitely hamper my current objectives. On the top of that, I never expect anything which is beyond my ability. I never blame myself for this habit as I easily become engaged with any work in my life. 

Thursday, July 3, 2025 (Why am I stress-free? part-1)

The biggest stress of my life starts that there is no stress. I am little confused whether I forget to think about stressful events or I have a solid plan. obviously, the second statement is not right as I have no plan yet. Hence, first statement is right and I somehow forget to think about upcoming events. There are various facts behind the situation for me. 

 

• First of all, the event may take place after a long time. If something happens after a while, I will think about it after a certain period. It is more logical for me. 

• Secondly, I spent my life in a high tensed environment from 2016 to 2024 which might have increased my patience. I am always thankful to the creator as I know meaning of stressful life. Thus, I can handle the pressure of any unfavorable situation.
  

• Thirdly, I got someone who can support me in any point of life without conditions.
  

• Fourthly, I am flexible to fit myself in any environment and I don't have any fear to leave any place. There were a lot of times in my life when I preferred to start everything from starting even though I achieved some certain milestones.
  

• Fifthly, I do not expect anything extraordinary from the life. Moreover, I understand the reality and plan to achieve a target which is minimum for me.  

• Lastly, I want to go back towards my previous problem and I don't mind to rethink about the previous life.  

However, the last statement is not preferable at all as I don't remember about it anymore. The answer lies in between first five statements and I will explore it very soon. 

 

Wednessday, June 25, 2025 (Doing group task without any member)

I love to do all my tasks alone as I perform better in the solo work and it is my personal preference. In constrast, I am conformable to work in a group as well. I become more conscious about my part as my work has an impact on the overall performance of the group. I am very responsible person in case of collaborative work. I am very surprised to see many irresponsible persons in the team-based work. They don't care about work or anything. 

Tuesday, June 24, 2025 (Feeling satisfied)

The result of our first semester was published few days back but I did not get all the result on that day. There was a particular subject which was not published in my student portal. I was depressed about it heavily as I assumed that I might have failed in the module. I tried very hard for the subject and I was not confident at all due to making assignment first time in UK. Some of my classmates also indicted about the chance that I did not pass in the module. I failed many times in my life and I do not have any shame to accept my failure. However, the feeling of uncertainty makes me feel disappointed. Today, I got my result and I passed. I am pleasured that I passed in all the subjects.

Friday, June 20, 2025 (Ending of a holiday)

I have recognized that I am in a holiday mood after changing the city even though it is more than 20 days now. I have to follow a routine in order to make a discipline life for education and professional life. I have some plans in my mind for future which is impossible without a proper road map. Today, I was confused to select few objectives from a range of alternatives and I went to a place where there was no one. Sometime, Silence provides you the right answer and I got the correction answer as well. 

Tuesday, June 10, 2025 (The weight of silence)

Often I don't emphasize my ideas toward others even though I know my idea is total right. I did the same thing for many times in my life and people did not realize their fault in the majority of cases. Today, the same event has happened as I let other to make decision despite of knowing the right way. Though people often recognize their fault, they hesitate to accept the truth due to their reputation. 

Somehow, I overcomed my issues including acceptation of the truth and transcending the ego. If I accept my shortcoming, I will have a scope to improve myself. Believing in continuous improvement is the suitable alternative for me rather than arguing with vogue thoughts. 

In contrast, very few people have the quality to face the facts and improve themself. Ego and reputation are the main culprits for the situation and it is not easy to let go the self-centeredness and prestige. We remain in the deep sea of ego and the persuit of reputation. However, the place is not the entire universe at all. There are lands, spaces, galaxies and so on.

Friday, May 31, 2025 (The last day)

Sometime, it is impossible to express my feelings in words as the language fails to capture the actual moment at all. My heart becomes lonely without any proper reason. There are many things in my life that I do not need to remember. Because I am flexible to cope up with any condition. I do not know whether it is a great ability or it is a curse to me. I got another term for me and that is water. I am like water which can fit in any empty space though it is very common. It is the last day of my first job in UK and I love my work. I feel myself very lucky that the staffs of the place were very cooperative. 

Saturday, May 10, 2025 (End of a busy period)

I have been busy for the last 15 days due to having excessive pressure of assessments and job. There were a series of assessments including presentation, reports, portfolio and more on. The last assessment was conducted on 07 May which was a presentation. I had to study late night as I reached my accommodation in the mid night from work. There was no scope for relaxing myself though I had similar experiences in many times. However, I always love to have restlessness in my life. I feel satisfied, accomplished and most importantly alive. 

Saturday, April 19, 2025 (Satisfaction with my first work in UK)

 

After a long time, I have done an economic activity today by working a restaurant. I always love to work in diverse areas because it allows me to push my limits. I don't know how great or bad the work was. I can not remember any unhappy moment during my work or maybe there was no unhappy moment. Alternatively, I enjoyed it a lot. I just lost myself in the work with my passion toward doing work. It seems very crazy thing for most of the persons but I feel satisfied. Satisfaction of getting in action is the main motto of my life. I never like to spend lazy time without any productive activities. 

Saturday, April 12, 2025 (First day in UK, part-2)

I was alone when I arrived UK first time. Despite having nervousness, I was even more excited to feel the new environment and to experience the unfamiliar place. When my plane landed, I prepared myself for facing immigration officer and collecting my luggage. There was no WiFi collection at the airport. I walked approximately 10 minutes to reach the immigration officer. She asked me very basic questions like my name, the name of my university, CAS letter and more on within 2 minute. After passing through the point, my mind was only focused on the collection of luggage. I collected my 3 suitcases and tried to get a trolley. However, using a trolley required payment by card or coin. I could not manage it as I did not have any coin or international card. Hence, I went out from the airport without a trolley. I felt the cool weather of Manchester. It was a sunny day and temperature was 7 degree. It was a pleasure moment for me to feel the weather of Europe first time in my life. In contrast, I did not have any internet or SIM card which made some issues for me. The main challenge was the finding a taxi to reach my accommodation booked through booking.com for 5 days. I thought it would be like a system similar to one in Bangladesh. I spent at least 1 hour to go here and there without a proper direction. Then I asked a boy to help me and he directed me perfectly. I luckily had a printed copy of my accommodation. The taxi driver was very friendly and took me the place. 

On arrival, It was again a confusing situation for me to enter the house. They provided me a code in my mail but I did not know how to use it. I entered into the house with the help of a neighbor. I call my house to confirm about my arrival of UK as soon as I got the WiFi. My room was in the grand floor from where I could see the outside. Though there was curtain in the glass door, it was uncomfortable for me. I had not eaten anything for a while, so I started searching place to eat some food near by me. I found a restaurant for lunch and a list of works including buying a SIM card, talking with landlord, buying foods for night were pending. I enjoyed watching the views of road, parks, birds etc. It was a great feeling to take breadth in a new environment. After completing my lunch, I went to the landlord and searched to buy a SIM card as well. After a while, I found a mobile shop from where I bought a SIM card. I did not know how to use bus at that time. As a result, walking is the only way to travel. I walked approximately 40 min and reached place. After confirming the accommodation, I started coming bank to my current place. I bought some fruits and chicken fries for dinner. The sun sat around 4.40 PM and I reached my current place at 6 o'clock. 

It was a busy day for me but I was very happy. Having tiredness, I walked 7 miles in that day due to my excitement. 

Monday, March 17, 2025 (New life in UK part-1)

I have been remaining very busy for long time life. I got my student visa on 08 January and was heavily engaged with preparation including shopping, preparing documents, arranging accommodation and more on. 

I was restless in the last week and got very little time for myself as well. I stayed outside almost everyday before arriving UK due to doing all the unfinished works. I hoped that my wife would join me. However, it did not happen and I went to UK alone on 03 February.