Friday, October 31, 2025 (Transition period)

The autunm is one of the most beautiful season in the UK from my point of view when the nature is in colorful and viabriate mood. A combination of Reddish, yellowish and green hues is observed in the environment during the season. Fallen yellow and red leaves look like a painting on the ground. It is almost the ending time of autumn and the winter is knocking at door now. Winter, a period of long & cold nights, is not only harsh but also challenging for everyone. The natural landscape looks like a screen of a horror movie. 

The transition from autunm to winter highly makes me think about the life and realizes me that nothing remains same forever. The same thing happen with the period of prosperity. People forget thinking about upcoming adverse period while they are enjoying their victorious moments. Post-success decline makes a setback which is more challenging for us to regain the achieved position. Hence, it is essential for individuals to make proper plan in order to defend the upcoming stressful period. 

For me, I am scared of having positive phase as a difficult period may wait for me. I think and rethink about my situation and prepare for potential treats while enjoying the session. However, I feel relaxed and happy while facing tough time. Because I know that there will be an end of the period and the next period will be covered with success and joy. 

Thursday, October 30, 2025 (Why am I stress-free? part-6, Ending)

I want to go back towards my previous problem and I don't mind to rethink about the previous life. 

Though it is the last option, it is not considered the worst possible choice for me. I don't have any desire to go back at all. However, a tiny greedy part exists inside my heart which indicates me about leaving all the things and going back. Beyond the existence of that devil inside me, there are some logics behind my last option as well. 

Firstly, I did not leave any huge opportunity in Bangladesh like others. For-example: Some of my classmates left high income jobs or government jobs due to pursue opportunities in the UK. I had healthy income as a freelancer but I have confidence to regain my position within few months even to gain a better position than the previous one. Because I did not resign from any position which was achieved after spending several years. 

Secondly, I did not leave my country only to have a better life but my determination to the act stated due to anger for some specific people. I have observed a particular aspect about myself that my angernes is not parmanent. My mother has been waiting for me since February. Someday fire of my anger will die down and my mood may change. 

Finally, I can redefine myself with the experience that I achieve from the UK. Whenever I completed a struggling period, I redefined me and made myself a better human. Right now, It is my surviving period where I am learning a lot of new things. If I go back to Bangladesh, I will definitely extend my capacity. 

If It becomes true, the scario will be normal for me as well. Because I regard the journey as a form of vacation for me. Thus, going back will be a scenario like coming back to home after having a long vacaion. It will not be a huge loss for me but a life time experience. 

Friday, October 24, 2025 (Silence)

Silence is one of the most vital act that people should use as a powerful tool to focus deeply on any complex issue. Being silence does not mean that you don't know about anything. But it indicates that you are a great listener and engage in deep thinking at the same time. Silence improves our thinking pattern and plans whereas a talkative person wastes a lot of time in gossiping with others. Additionally, it improves determination to achieve our goals. A silent person thinks more deeply about his ultimate targets and makes strategies to achieve them. In contrast, expressing persons are engaged to talk with other most of the time. Moreover, It is very difficult to understand the philosophy and plan of a silent person as they do not share their plans or philosophy easily with anyone. The silent person can understand the philosophy and ideas of others and make a new road map from those ideas. 

I don't like to talk without any specific purpose in my life time and most people may consider the behavior as a psychological problem. I was told the thing by many relatives at past. I never took their words seriously and never tried to improve at all. However, I would like to act various characters and talkative person is one of my character that I play in my real life. I have found that I become too much expressive now-a-days. The phenomenon is not bad though it does not align with my mission and vision. I found some observations about expressive persons.

Why do people like to gossip?

In general, talking is not brain storming at all. People especially talkative persons mostly discuss or share stories of their life.  Feeling rewarding to express my stories towards others is common due to two reasons. 

Additionally, I believe that everyone is hero in his own world and everyone say anything in his own perspective. Because of the assumption, everyone expressed a life story centering himself or herself. So, it is commonly rewarding for them to provide information about a specific incident when he or she plays a central role like a protagonist. 

Moreover, human being is very lazy when it comes to use brain. Definitely, Brain works for recalling the memory and communication for those activities. Nevertheless, Brain is not used for analyzing any complex thing. People feel relaxed without utilizing analytic part of the brain. For that fact, gossiping is a pleasure activity for most people. 

Benefits

I found few things in which majority of observations has negative impact in my life and few things go with my favor. The first positive things is that I got a plenty of ideas from others and their perspective about various matters. Thus, My knowledge was enriched with those ideas and philosophies. I got many ideas to solve problems as well. 

Most of the issues loose its complexity with passing time. As a result, remaining silent is the wise decision during that period. 

I was a determined person in order to hiding my actual plan and long term vision once. It helped me a lot for achieving many targets in my life. I found out solution for any unwanted issue with the help of silence and patience. 

Drawbacks

However, the talkative nature created many serious issues. I started loosing my focus on any matter due to expressing my opinion in term of sayings. It takes a plenty amount of time to chitchat with others and those time period would be used to generate ideas or to do something for future. Revealing ideas is another problem which is almost impossible for a chatty to prevent. The major challenge is that talkative nature spoils future surprises. For-example: I plan to learn a skill and have a strategy to follow it. Somehow, I start expressing my plan to everyone. The intensity to do the activity does not remain same for my case after expressing my future target. 

Once my father said to me that saying any information to other maned you selling precious words and listening to others was an activity of buying precious words from the speaker. He added that you should have been a buyer rather that a seller in order to remaining in the wise side. 

Finally, I am on the way of becoming a determined person again in case of silence. 

Thursday, October 2, 2025 (Rewatching "My name is Khan")

Last week, I rewatched "My name is Khan" which was released in 2010. It was my favorite movie of 2010 and almost all the movies of SRK are my favorite. The movie was released in 2010 and watching the movie again was essential to test if it is a cult classic movie.

In my opinion, we may fail to appreciate a good movie when it is released first due to having fact of vision and different trend of movies. 

Some movies become big hits by following a trend. However, we realize that those movies are not great at all after the trend fades. Some movies are ahead of its time which is seemed to irrelevant today. Nevertheless, we understand the concept after passing a certain time. To test the quality of a movie, I always prefer to watch it again after some time has passed. 

First of all, The story of the movie was relevant to the world at that time. western people speculate Muslim communities and Muslim people experienced discrimination and hardship in the early 2000s. Though there were reasons behind the phenomenon, acts of few people did not represent the whole community. The movie perfectly showed the situation of the community in early 2000s. 

The songs of the movie were entirely blended with ongoing circumstances and "Noor-E-Khuda" was the soul of the movie. The love story between leading characters developed in a meaningful manner. The film carried some core massages including judging people in terms of good and bad, avoid considering every Muslim as a terrorist, helping everyone without seeing the religion or race of the person. Finally, The performances of main characters were unbeatable. SRK completely did justice with his role "Rizwan Khan". His way of delivering dialogues, showing emotions and innocent moments would touch everyone's heart. Similarly, the female character played by Kajol was excellent as well. 

Right now, India is ruled by the extreme right wing government which tries to separate the society on the basis of religion due to getting votes and remaining in the power. But that "divide and rule" does not work in the long run. The movie will be a cult classic movie in future where people seem everything without having extremist outlook. 

 

Monday, September 1, 2025 (Why do people need filters in the life?)

I am surprised to see swing outlook of many persons. They have some particular issues for various sectors of groups. They change their opinion and make a narrative as per situation. Though changing opinion is not a sin at all, they change it with intention that the things go with their own way. Sometimes, they try to judge everything in absolute term which ultimately does not align with the reality. 

I often think that I understand the philosophy of a person. However, I recognize that I am wrong about my assumption from time to time due to having filters of those persons. Almost no one is strict to his or her own philosophy. Moreover, most individuals are opportunistic which is not preferable at all. In contrast, I found a few people having only one face. The phenomenon is not impossible if we are honest in our way. Flexibility means that it is predetermination about opportunities in case of philosophies. You should accept the actual fact and should not provide example of expectional events. 

At the end, It is not necessary to match my way of thinking with others. I accept anyone's way of living and try to understand his or her way of thinking. 

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Saturday, August 09, 2025 (A new culture)

Our assumptions are not always necessarily right because we are human beings and we can misjudge a phenomenon in our way. I assumed that western people are not friendly at all. There were many reasons behind my thoughts. Firstly, I heard a lot of things about them and most of them negatively impacted my mind. Inverse attitude towards western culture was the main reason behind my assumption. Additionally, I am always highly influenced by the teachers and some of my university teachers said that they were very rude and unfriendly, especially to Asian people. They again said many unfavorable things against their culture and lifestyle which forced me to jump to the worst conclusion as well. Lastly, the mass media of Bangladesh showed various things about western culture and society in the worst way. 

These were the main reasons behind my outlook about British people in the past. Before 2017, I tried to judge everything in absolute terms and I failed again and again to recognize the actual fact before that period of time. A man could be good or bad in absolute terms from my point of view. If someone was considered as good by me, he was perfect in all perspectives. However, I realized that the philosophy was wrong. As no one is perfect in all the areas, absolute judgement about a person is very controversial. After 2017, if anyone asked me about someone's behavior or performance, I asked a counter question. The question was “in which sector do you ask for?”. Because it is impossible for me to provide an overall judgement about someone. That philosophy inspired me to re-evaluate my assumptions about life, people, culture and religion. I was a hardliner about my philosophy in the past but gradually I realized my mistakes, rethought my philosophy, explored new ideas and reshaped my philosophy. As a result, I did not have any extreme thinking about any phenomenon including western people after 2018. 

Now back to today, when I arrived in the UK, I gradually felt that they were very friendly and helpful in most cases. They at least try to help others which is missing from people of my nation. They are very tolerant in almost all sectors. That's because we are immigrants and they accept us without showing any discrimination. In my country, we face challenges with the issue of Rohingya refugees and people don't like to accept them at all & hate them due to the financial crisis in many cases. In contrast, we, the people of Bangladesh, always try to show Muslim brotherhood in our daily life. Hence, it is a contradictory scenario and people of Bangladesh including me are hypocrites. The same thing happens in the western countries as well, they never boycott us (immigrants) socially. Moreover, I remained disappointed by the fact that asking questions was considered a sin in many cases in Bangladesh. Many people may disagree with me but it is true somehow. British culture always promotes asking questions and providing feedback in all matters which are necessary to improve ourselves and to explore new areas. Another great aspect is that British people like to do outdoor activities. Almost everyday, I see children play many types of games, hang out with others, do cycling and many more activities. It is a common scenario that all the members of the family go cycling or fishing on the weekend whereas the younger generation of Bangladesh mostly focus on online and spend most of their time chatting with others. Most of the parents provide mobile phones to their children at a very early age and they don't consider the negative sides of it. Thus, the younger generation is always busy with their phones, avoiding outdoor activities, and family hangouts on the weekend is missing from our culture. The western culture always accepts other cultures and values in their society. People come to the western countries with their traditional outfits and no one has any objection to it which shows their greatness. In the same street, we can see someone wearing a short dress and someone wearing a traditional long dress. In fact, watching church, Mosque and Hindu temple in nearby places is very common in the UK. Anyone follows his or her religious rituals without any disruption which is the beauty of the western world. 

Today, I went out to accomplish some personal work and I saw some fruit trees in the garden of a British man. I took a couple of pictures of it and watched it curiously. Then a British man came out from the house and started giving me information about the fruit. The name of the fruit was quince. He also added information about another nut tree. I was just amazed to see the friendly behavior of the man. 

The moral part of the story is that it is impossible to judge a society in absolute terms and every society has more or less positive and negative things. 

Monday, August 04, 2025 (Why am I stress-free? part-5)

I am flexible to fit myself in any environment and I don't have any fear to leave any place. There were a lot of times in my life when I preferred to start everything from starting even though I achieved some certain milestones.

It is true that I do not have any fear to leave any set place. I did it many time in my life and I will do it in future. Whenever I left any place, I found something more interesting in my previous life. From my perspective, leaving does not mean that I am a looser. It always inspires me to think in-dept and to prepare myself for the upcoming challenges. I always love to start everything from the beginning as it gives me opportunities to avoid the mistakes and to plan more accurately. Brainstorming is a great exercise for me. Most of the people do not want to give pressure in their brain as it is painful for them. On other hand, it realizes me that I am alive. 

Monday, July 28, 2025 (Why am I stress-free? part-4)

I got someone who can support me in any point of life without conditions

It is one of the valid reason behind my happiness that I have someone who always supports me even though I am not fully right. I love her but I can not match the love she has for me. I don't need to think about any matter most of the time due to her involvement. When I met with her, I quickly realized her value. She is very caring person and took wise decisions. Her social communication is much more higher than that of mine. It is true that I become highly dependable on her. She is the reason behind the my confidence and I can live in any place in the world with her. There were a lot of situations where she appreciated my decisions. She knew that my decision was not wise but she accepted me as I was. without her support, I may have became a successful professional with a having depression and unsatisfied individual. Thus, It is a strong reason behind stress-free life.

 

Monday, July 21, 2025 (Why am I stress-free? part-3)

Secondly, I spent my life in a high tensed environment from 2016 to 2024 which might have increased my patience. I am always thankful to the creator as I know meaning of stressful life. Thus, I can handle the pressure of any unfavorable situation.

My life was quite relaxed until 2016. In 2016, I joined my first job which was very challenging and had high work pressure. It became more complex and mentally challenged at the same time. I worked for a long period of time without breaks. I am always thankful to the organization about the experience as it was a life changing moment for me. I changed myself and my outlook towards others. I gradually became a person who remained quiet even in the high times. In 2019, it was not tough to handle the pressure due to my previous experience in my second job. I pushed myself and tested my limits in 2021 when I started freelencing. Somedays, I worked approximately 15 hours in a day with full focus and creative mind. It was even more challenging than my first job. Life is restless for me and I enjoy the mental unease. I never feel worried about those experiences because those situations provided me with the power to think positive, enjoy any work, cooperate with a difficult person and handle the pressure. 

It is a strong reason behind my quietness that I can actually tackle unpleasure situations, at least, I can mentally handle them. 

Sunday, July 20, 2025 (Confused about my philosophy)

I always believe that respect and decent behavior can conquare the heart of an unfriendly person. I want to believe in the philosophy and some people try to break my trust. I respect everyone, even unpreferred colleagues. I am confused that some persons still insult me without any proper reasons. Maybe they live in a deep dark ocean where there is no light. whenever they face the light, they think that it is a harmful thing for them. Because they don't know the value of light or they are not familiar with the power. thus, they only understand the language of darkness. I can not change the world but I believe in my philosophy at the same time. 

Friday, July 4, 2025 (Why am I stress-free? part-2)

The event may take place after a long time. If something happens after a while, I will think about it after a certain period. It is more logical for me.  

When there is a lot of time to happen an unfavorable event, I stop thinking about it. Obviously, I have to do many things which are necessary to do before that particular event. In contrast, I am fully concentrated on my ongoing tasks. To tackle any situation, I make plans which work sometime and does not work other times. However, I need to focus on the present scenario for the achievement of upcoming objectives. If I think only about future for a stressful event, I will definitely hamper my current objectives. On the top of that, I never expect anything which is beyond my ability. I never blame myself for this habit as I easily become engaged with any work in my life. 

Thursday, July 3, 2025 (Why am I stress-free? part-1)

The biggest stress of my life starts that there is no stress. I am little confused whether I forget to think about stressful events or I have a solid plan. obviously, the second statement is not right as I have no plan yet. Hence, first statement is right and I somehow forget to think about upcoming events. There are various facts behind the situation for me. 

 

• First of all, the event may take place after a long time. If something happens after a while, I will think about it after a certain period. It is more logical for me. 

• Secondly, I spent my life in a high tensed environment from 2016 to 2024 which might have increased my patience. I am always thankful to the creator as I know meaning of stressful life. Thus, I can handle the pressure of any unfavorable situation.
  

• Thirdly, I got someone who can support me in any point of life without conditions.
  

• Fourthly, I am flexible to fit myself in any environment and I don't have any fear to leave any place. There were a lot of times in my life when I preferred to start everything from starting even though I achieved some certain milestones.
  

• Fifthly, I do not expect anything extraordinary from the life. Moreover, I understand the reality and plan to achieve a target which is minimum for me.  

• Lastly, I want to go back towards my previous problem and I don't mind to rethink about the previous life.  

However, the last statement is not preferable at all as I don't remember about it anymore. The answer lies in between first five statements and I will explore it very soon.