Thursday, September 24, 2020 (Depression, over expectation, Deserving - Planning and finding out alternatives)

The period of depression comes in the life now and then. It doesn't matter how long it will last. Feeling depressed is not a sin and it is very common feeling. 

There are many reasons behind depression. One of the most influencing fact is over-expectation. Over expectation forces us to expect more than our capabilities. It is not a sin either to expect more than one's capabilities. All the living creatures expect more. Problem doesn't arise from over expectation. It arises when we assume the over expectation as our deserving thing without much effort. Mixing over-expectation with deserving thing is the main problem in case of depression. 

What do I deserve actually??? 

Before answering the question, I have to think which things I got which I actually didn't deserve. The list is not short. 

Over expectation is not a problem if we plan, work and try our best to achieve it. But people only think about it without much efforts. It is not our prime duty to think about deserving. Only thinking about deserving thing without much efforts is not ideal at all. There are many things in life expect thinking about it. 

At the same time, we should not compare our life with others. We don't know about back ground history of the targeted person. Other's success should be our inspiration rather than our depression. 

For me, I love to be depressed by various factors. Being depressed is not my weakness. I consider it as my biggest strength. Whenever I become depressed, I start planning and implementing it. And I know my abilities and my deserving things. But I always expect one step lower than my deserving thing. :) 

Sunday, March 29, 2020 (Pandemic)

Bangladesh is a strange country and I knew the fact. Things are proved against that most of the people do not focus on the main point. They always have interest on secondary things rather than the primary things. There are too many superstitions and blank brief among us. I don’t have any objection against anyone’s brief. It is one’s choice to have blank or incomplete brief but hurting or hampering others is not tolerable due to those blank or incomplete brief or superstitions. 

I know most of the people have no idea about microscopic life in our country. Even though most of the educated persons have very little knowledge about it and it makes the problem more critical as they don’t give proper answer to others. Because they study to get degree only rather than knowledge. Similarly, their act also has a negative impact to the society. 

So, the third world war has started between human and virus. In one side, there is human being and in the other side, there is COVID-19. The virus is very contiguous and can be transferred human to human which make it more dangerous. The government of Bangladesh has declared a 10 days general holiday to spend time at home for avoiding public gathering. The decision is very appreciable for sure. But people think it an Eid Holiday and start going their hometown. As a result, there are mass gathering. So, the ultimate target is not understood by people and the result of it can hamper all of us. Equally, there is a group of people in our society who don’t care about that pandemic treat. 

Moreover, expatriates also think that they will spend the whole time with family in Bangladesh as a holiday. They must stay foreign countries now but they arrived somehow. And they did not follow the home quarantine order either. For this, they made real treat for us. 

Basically Corona Virus is a group of viruses and COVID-19 is a type of Corona Virus. More 650,000 persons are infected and more than 33,000 persons died by this virus until 29.03.2020. It is also declared as pandemic. .

“The COVID-19 virus affects different people in different ways.  COVID-19 is a respiratory disease and most infected people will develop mild to moderate symptoms and recover without requiring special treatment.  People who have underlying medical conditions and those over 60 years old have a higher risk of developing severe disease and death.

Common symptoms include:

• ·         Fever
• ·         Tiredness
• ·         Dry cough.

Other symptoms include:

• ·         Shortness of breath
• ·         Aches and pains
• ·         Sore throat

·         And very few people will report diarrhea, nausea or a runny nose.

People with mild symptoms who are otherwise healthy should self-isolate and contact their medical provider or a COVID-19 information line for advice on testing and referral. People with fever, cough or difficulty breathing should call their doctor and seek medical attention.”**

“To prevent infection and to slow transmission of COVID-19, do the following:

• ·         Wash your hands regularly with soap and water, or clean them with alcohol-based hand rub.
• ·         Maintain at least 1 metre distance between you and people coughing or sneezing.
• ·         Avoid touching your face.
• ·         Cover your mouth and nose when coughing or sneezing.
• ·         Stay home if you feel unwell.
• ·         Refrain from smoking and other activities that weaken the lungs.
• ·         Practice physical distancing by avoiding unnecessary travel and staying away from large groups of people.”**

All the countries face trouble to handle this pandemic and they have very limited scope to make the situation favorable. If the same thing happen in our country, the result will be worst. The main problem of us is that we don’t want to follow the instruction. It is totally our fault to have that type of mentality. Similarly, we don’t focus on main thing but we focus on secondary or unnecessary things. For-Example: When a patient of COVID-19 is found, we should make distance from that person but people gather in front of his house to see him. 

This time, we need to be antisocial rather than to be social. Distant makes the situation better. After all, we will save us and others from us. J

** Note: Quoted lines are collected from

https://www.who.int/health-topics/coronavirus#tab=tab_2

https://www.who.int/health-topics/coronavirus#tab=tab_3

Wednesday, January 01, 2020

Another year has just passed. Now it’s 2020 and it is the starting of another year as well as decade. 

The previous year was crucial for me due to various reasons. One of the important events was the movement of professional life. I resigned from Unmesh even without getting a job. I didn't have any plan before 6 months from resigning. By the way, it was a great journey. I changed my outlook and life. I was completely fit in my job and got appreciation & many friends. It is said that nothing lasts forever. In case of happiness, it lasts for a shorter period.

 

I completed my MBA and became a full time student again. I got another job after a small incident. In the second phase, I attended 5 interviews (5 companies) in which 2 are successful and 3 are unsuccessful attempts. I celebrated each and every unsuccessful attempt by giving treat myself because it taught me to correct my mistakes. I always learn from my mistakes and try to find out my mistakes. Similarly, I love to work specially engaged work. 

I hope that the New Year brings some new challenges to me as well as some new problems. And I will be able to sort out every problem. 

Today, all the members of Duronto TV family have celebrated the New Year. Our honorable director sir, Mr. Abhijit Chowdhury, made a rule to be cut the New Year cake by the newest member of their family. And this year it is me. So, I am very glad that I got the opportunity.  

Wednesday, December 11, 2019

Life is very complicated in my case but every is okay. One of the two scenarios may be  here. Firstly, everything is actually okay but I am just overthinking every single fact. Secondly, everything seems to be okay but somethings are seriously worst in the life.

I think too much negative for myself as I expect less for myself. Expecting less is not my weakness but it is my one of the best quality. Because it gives me satisfaction with every small achievement. Failure is also a reason for me to celebrate due to learning from it.

I feel everything impossible when I see back. Because a single distraction may have changed my present greatly. I see everything nebulous when I see forward. I never see a clear image about my future because known fact never happens in the life. There are too much uncertainties for the certain events.

At the end of the day, uncertainty seems better and it surprises me. I always prefer uncertainty and surprises from life. 

Friday, December 13, 2019 (intership defense of MBA)

I have completed all the formal and informal exams of my MBA course. Today I have attended Defense for thesis paper and the journey has ended with this event. As I mentioned in my previous blog that the duration was like the duration of my BBA. 

But the journey was not easy to carry on. There were too much difficulties and struggles. In fact, those struggles made me stronger. Many times, I felt that things were worst. But I was happy to know sun hiding behind the cloud. Someday, the sun would be visible again. 

But I didn't know when I could not tell about struggles and difficulty to my father. There were many things to express but no words are told. I know I am introvert but I should have told those. With every single passing day, I realize that I should have told him. 

By the way, it's just another step in my study life. I know life is a study and it is definitely not the end of the study life. 

Friday, December 06, 2019 (Time and Life)

I thought last day that the day would be big and relaxing. I got up at 10.00 Am and got ready to accomplish some tasks. I left home at 12.00 pm and hoped to return before 3.00 pm. But I reached home at 5.20 pm. The day is almost over in the blink of an eye. At the ending moment, I am thinking what I have done today. The answer is nothing significant. 

In case of life, the same role is applicable. When we realize about life, the half of life is over. Because school, college and university life end quickly than our expectation. Then we focus on career and are busy with achieving goals. After then, we realize the life is almost at the end and we did nothing is in life. For most of the cases, things like this happen.

Monday, July 01, 2019 (Short temper)

Drop by drop water creates an ocean after a course of time.

There are 2 types of people existing in the world.

First one is the person who becomes angry quickly and reacts as soon as possible. People call them short temper. Basically people try to avoid any debate or unfavorable saying with them because they may brawl on them. The reasons behind short temper are many including power, position, environment, stress, personality, financial problems, level of education, eating habit and more on. Infact, I have to read a book about short temper to better understand the topic ;). Short temper persons don’t think too much but they need scope to temp. There is a weakness of having it that the person releases all his emotions with his words. That means that his anger becomes low even zero after releasing it. They don’t remember anything about their angriness.

Second one is the person who becomes angry but don’t react very soon. They think and rethink before reacting in an incident. Sometimes they become very angry without any reaction. Basically they consider two things. At first, it is not right time to react. They seek right opportunity to give the proper answer. Secondly, they are inspired by those. They remember those things and take effective measures to avoid future incidents. They will react on right time with right sample.

Basically I respect both of them. Our society has both personalities. But number of short tempers has much more higher than number of cool tempered persons. Everyone tries to make debate for almost everything without using logic. When I use logic, they indicate social norms. When I point out specific social norm, they start talking about other subjects.

I am the second one who becomes angry but don’t react immediately. I remember everything to give an answer on right time with right manner. People think that I don’t understand anything because I don’t react.